Monday, 29 January 2018

Be Your Own Cheer Leader

Rainbows - Maria A Smith 
I'm having a wobble. January hasn't gone to plan. My mum's unwell, she's got problems with her sight, and hasn't recovered well from this nasty virus that's been doing the rounds. Hubby had an accident at work last week involving a circular saw! I know, everyone winces at the thought of it. Thankfully, he hasn't lost any fingers, and has limited nerve damage. He's been very lucky, and we're so grateful things weren't a lot worse. He's getting used to being at home, and he's coping well with the pain as I write this post.

The week before my daughter was fretting over an essay she needed to hand in, it's her final year at University and she'd worked so hard on it. We had a scary half hour when she thought she'd accidentally deleted it! I managed to find it on her laptop and all was well again. It was a relief when she handed it in I can tell you as the stress was coming off her in waves. And work, well let's just say the day job's been a tad challenging of late, due to a new system that's been introduced.

My dentist thinks I'm clenching my jaw AGAIN as I broke another tooth last week too, which involved a costly repair. It might be work related, or life in general that's making me clench my jaw, who knows? I'm trying hard to be aware of it when life is challenging.

Is it just me that's having a 'challenging' month? No, of course not, this is normal, this is the rollercoaster of LIFE, and all of us from time to time have unexpected ups and downs, and obstacles thrown into our path.

What's happened in the last two weeks, has reinforced what I'd come round to thinking a long time ago - there's nothing as important as your health, it really is your wealth, and without it, you won't have as good a quality of life  as someone who is well. Money is secondary, yes, of course it helps, you need it to put a roof over your head, pay bills and eat, but good health comes above all of that.

I'm taking everything in my stride. I'm NOT getting upset and wound up when things happen because it's better to keep a calm head and deal with it. When my weekly writing plan, doesn't go to plan, of course I'm dismayed, and I wonder how I'm going to catch up, so I say to myself, 'I'm doing my best and that's okay.' I make it my mantra. 'I'm doing my best and that's okay' The key is to do whatever you can, and not feel like you've failed.

When it gets to Friday and the only exercise I've done is fifteen minutes of walking up and down the pool, and all those promised thirty minute walks never materialised, it's disheartening. Of course it is, like when I've done really well on the scales and lost more than a few pounds, but then when disater strikes in another area of life I falter, and fall off my plan, and raid the biscuit tin! What do I say to myself? 'What can I learn from this?' Okay so I'm a slow slow learner on that one, but I'll keep reinforcing the message. 'What can I learn from this?'

January's progress wasn't the plan I had in mind. However, it's not the end of my best laid plans, it just means I need to regroup, take some deep breaths and get back out there again. 'I can do this!' And that is another of my cheer-leading mantras. 'I can do this.' Of course I can, even if it's going to take me a little longer, or if I have a tight deadline, I'll find another way.

The way you think about yourself could be the key to success, and the first steps towards change are accepting yourself for the way you are. At last I think I'm doing that, and I'm learning to work with what I've got, as lets face it, we all do things differently. As long as we get over the finish line, does it matter how we did it?

In the midst of all the chaos good things happened too, but I had to look out for them. I mean really look out for them, because often we overlook the good stuff  by not paying attention. Don't believe me? Okay, this week, look for the good things that happen in your day. Try and find two things every day, and write them down before you go to bed. At the end of the week you'll have a list of stuff, you'd ordinarily not think about too much. Hey, they were good things, so celebrate them. Here's my list.

I saw a double rainbow, just after a heavy shower. Isn't nature amazing? I watched the movie Darkest Hour, and thought how lucky are we to live in a country without war. I spent time with friends and enjoyed a meal in their company. I heard the joy in my daughter's voice when she told me her tutor had said she'd done good on her essay. I held my first Subs Club ( for writers who want to submit their work)  meeting of 2018, I've wrote flash fiction, an article and done some edits on my novel and I saw a robin on my way to work.

So yes, I had a wobble, and I dare say they'll be more as 2018 unfolds, but I'm getting back on track, and I'm looking forward, not back.

How's life treating you?

15 comments:

  1. The positivity you project in times of adversity, Maria, is inspiring. You’ve had a hard time of it, Of late, but you’re hanging in there and pushing on. Any progress, however small, is still progress.

    Keep trying to put your health first and I know the rain clouds will clear soon.

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  2. Sounds like you've had a bumpy start to the year. I hope your mum is better soon - that virus seems to be knocking everyone for six and it just won't go away! Hope your hubby is better soon too. Thank goodness your daughter hadn't lost her essay. I sympathise over the jaw clenching. I've cracked teeth doing it myself.

    I love the picture of the double rainbow - there is something so hopeful about it. And I love your attitude. You're right, nothing is more important than your health. I hope you don't have any more reasons to wobble and life treats you well :-)

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    1. Ah Teresa, we must learn not to clench our teeth. I've managed to break three so far, without realising that was what I was doing. It's bizarre.
      Good to see you here.

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  3. So sorry it hasn't been the best month. I hope things improve for your mum and that your husband's injury (and yes, I did wince) heals soon. January didn't go according to plan for me really, and I can't believe it has almost all gone. Picking myself up and starting again with fresh plans for February. Onwards. All we can do. Be kind to yourself Maria, there are often setbacks, but I am hoping that February is a good month for you. I am a bit of a tooth clencher as well. I only realise when my jaw starts aching. CJ xx

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    1. Ah, this jaw clenching is wider spread than I thought then...I hope you have a good week and beyond!

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  4. I love your phlilophical attitude. You're right, of course: life is inevitably a mixture of sunshine and showers, and the occasional monsoon. I was reading yesterday that too much positivity can actually be a bad thing, because it can set us up for a fall if we expect everything to work out just fine. January and February are always challenging for me, too. Is it the weather? The cold? Who knows. Hang in there, Maria.

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    1. Thanks Julia, I'm on the up now, thinking positively about what I'm doing next...

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  5. The best quote... Don't sweat the small stuff. And it's all small stuff.

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    1. I like that one. Thank you for sharing.

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  6. Oh dear, hope things improve. I can relate to the teeth clenching & breaking. I've just had a crown & I wear a guard at night to stop me grinding my teeth. All good wishes.

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    1. Crikey, my dentist hasn't yet suggested a guard but he has sent an estimate over email for a crown. This teeth clenching is definitely a thing then!

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  7. December was my bad month. It really took it out of me. Self care is so important at times like these.
    I think the important thing is to just keep going. It is easier to get back in to things if you never completely stop. So even a couple of minutes a day will help in the long run, when life has settled down.

    I hope your husband is doing okay too! So glad to hear the damage is minimal.

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    1. Thank you Ingrid. And your words reminded me of the famous quote by Winston Churchill
      "When going through hell - keep going!" and that's what I intend to do, and at the moment it is just ten minutes a day.

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  8. Hi Maria - you're making the most sensible choices ... being relaxed and not overly worrying - so glad your hubby isn't worse and he's recovering, and that your daughter found her essay - while I sincerely hope your mother improves ... and so generally all will be easier in your household and at work. Take care ... one step at a time - cheers Hilary

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